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Binding: Paperback Dewey Decimal Number: 158.2 EAN: 9781580625692 ISBN: 158062569X Label: Adams Media Manufacturer: Adams Media Number Of Items: 1 Number Of Pages: 352 Publication Date: 2003-02-01 Publisher: Adams Media Studio: Adams Media
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Spotlight customer reviews: Customer Rating: Summary: Agreed that this is a dangerous book Comment: Stay away from this book! Evans makes up terms for stuff that's been in psych textbooks for ages. Not only is this book not useful (since, as the other reviewers stated, her advice for dealing with controlling people is to simply say "What?" and a few other phrases), but it poses a danger to anyone in a severe controlling relationship--it might actually make that relationship worse by aggravating a controller. Although it's not quite the same, the book "Toxic Parents" by Susan Forward is much more recommended than this trite nonsense. Customer Rating: Summary: Gender biased, unscientific and presents half the story Comment: The author is gender biased. The examples in the book present men as controlling, women as victims. Here's the recurring two sentences from the book, repeated time and time again: "One of my clients was struggling with HER controlling husband." Or "One husband, a client of mine, needed help dealing with his angry, controlling behavior." I can't recommend this book, because it implies women are the victims, never the controllers. In my own life, i see examples of both men and women controlling others. The author never discusses passive agressive controlling behavior. She only discusses verbal, angry outburst behavior. I find the examples highly biased. And since the author only deals with male forms of control, she inadequately describes controlling behavior, because she only studies one half of the human population. Customer Rating: Summary: Great, non-judgemental approach Comment: This book has helped me recognize controlling behaviors of people in my life; not only those close to me, but in work situations also. It has been a good tool in helping me deal with these situations. Customer Rating: Summary: Understand what is happening Comment: Intelligent, informative and accessible. Once you understand what is happening, you can respond appropriately. If you are an abuser, understand what is driving your emotions. This is a helpful book. Customer Rating: Summary: Thought-provoking, but mostly theory. Comment: Insightful and thought-provoking. My only complaint is that it's mostly theory; there's only a tiny bit of practical suggestion near the end. More Reviews